Even though we are on our tenth year of homeschooling, I still struggle with feeling frustrated when my homeschool fantasy does not match my reality.
Fantasy: My house will be orderly and clean at all time.Reality: My house is orderly for about 5 seconds once a week after we finish Saturday chores. The rest of the time it is in various stages of the "lived in" look. I am always utterly amazed at how fast a clean surface can be covered or a tidy room can disappear in the blink of an eye. My overall orderliness is improving, but I won't really have a "clean" house until they all move out.
Fantasy: My children will easily complete their homeschool assignments and daily check them of their weekly assignment list.Reality: Assignment list? Ok, so I don't get the weekly assignment list ready every week. Even when I do, half the time they don't mark of their work after it is completed. Most of the time it looks something like, "Hey, have your done math today?"
Fantasy: My children will only read classic books like Shakespeare and biographies.Reality: Science fiction, comic books and fan fiction and other fluff and nonsense take up far to much of my children's attention. That is not to say that we don't read good books, but the ratio of fluff to substance leaves a bit to be desired. At least, we don't have the exposure to the dark and depressing junk that some schools use for English Literature these days.
Fantasy: I will give each child me full attention when helping them with their school work.Reality: I have a
25 lb-2 year old hip attachment that dramatically limits my availability. The only time I'm really attentive is when he is sleeping. The upside to this is that the older girls have become more educationally self reliant and independent workers. However, I still feel a little guilty.
Fantasy: My children will become a virtuoso musician, a math prodigy or develop some other dramatic talent.Reality: My kids are average smart. They are pretty competent at life skills and should be able to live well as independent adults, be good spouses and become competent mommies and daddies. However, I don't think they are going to win a Pulitzer Prize or find the cure for cancer.
Fantasy: My children will always love homeschooling.Reality: Most of my children like homeschooling most of the time.
Fantasy: I can homeschool my children and still have time to pursue hobbies, blogging and other interests.Reality: Hobby? What's a hobby? Blogging? I sometimes don't even read what Henry posts on our blog, let alone anyone else's blog.
Fantasy: My children will be peer independent, yet have great social skills and have a good circle of friends (though I wouldn't call them "popular.")Reality: My children are so much better off than I was at their age. They have good friends who share our values. While we are still mastering the social graces, I'm pleased at who they are and how they interact with the world.
In the end, it is this type of homeschool reality that keeps me going on the hard days.
I would do more, but my hip attachment is calling.
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